Thanksgiving and Christmas are times for family fun and joyful celebrations. However, parents of special-needs children may need to brace for the challenges that the holiday season brings.  Children special-needs may react negatively to the changes in daily routines and too much stimulation. Too often, friends, neighbors and even extended family members don’t understand the stress and challenges faced by special-needs parents and families.

What Can Friends and Relatives Do for Parents of Children Special Needs?

• Understand that the caregiver parents are doing everything possible to keep the home running smoothly during the holidays. Putting a relative up for the weekend might be a huge inconvenience.
• Be aware that holiday excitement, parades, parties, and noisy fun stress some children…Don’t become offended if the parents choose not to participate or volunteer to help with a school holiday play or church performance.
• Don’t isolate special-needs parents from holiday fun; find the best way to include them. Parents may not be able to attend a neighbor’s party, but getting an invitation can mean a lot.
• Respect a couple’s decision to celebrate in the best way possible and don’t criticize. If it takes the family 3 or 4 days to open presents, then don’t make a fuss about it.

Often the best solution is simply conditions of structure and routine. When holidays and events disrupt the usual schedule, the child can become anxious, depressed, and agitated.  Friends and relatives can make the holidays easier for special-needs parents by understanding and supporting the parents and children.